What’s African about unalloyed misogyny?

The just passed marriage bill is unambiguously the most offensive idea to come out of the 11th Parliament yet. According to the BBC:

MP Samuel Chepkong’a, who proposed the amendment, said that when a woman got married under customary law, she understood that the marriage was open to polygamy, so no consultation was necessary, Kenya’s Daily Nation newspaper reports.

Mohammed Junet, an MP representing a constituency from the western Nyanza province, agreed.

“When you marry an African woman, she must know the second one is on the way and a third wife… this is Africa,”

This is Grade A horse manure.

President Kenyatta should veto this bill. And the group of Kenyan MPs who think that disempowering women is a smart idea are advised to watch the video below of President Kibaki at a press conference ostensibly to confirm to Kenyans that he has ONLY ONE WIFE, following rumors to the contrary [More here].

Also, Mr. Kenyatta should require that before he assents to the bill it must expressly forbid dabbling in both civil and “customary” marriages because the resultant legal arbitrage only benefits men. SOMEONE TELL ME, WHY DO WE NEED A DUAL SYSTEM ANYWAY??? A woman entering a civil marriage should have the guarantee that it will always remain so, with stiff penalties for men who violate the contract. The provisions for Muslims have always been clear and should remain so.

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And just for good measure, they should also hear what Chimanda has to say about gender relations:

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More on the unbelievably sophomoric debate on this matter in the National Assembly here.

Kenyan politicians, you keep using that word [culture], I don’t think it means what you think it means

Here is the Standard reporting on the proposed amendments to the Marriage Bill:

The Bill passed through its second reading in the House Wednesday, even as controversy raged over how much say women should have on their husbands’ choice to get them co-wives [?!!!???!?!??!?!?!?!?].

Although the Bill has wide ranging provisions touching on marriage, the clause on polygamy has assumed a life of its own, with debate in the House and in the public zeroing in on the controversial clause. During debate last week, the chairman of the National Assembly’s Legal Affairs Committee Mr Samuel Chepkonga said they had considered an array of opinions before the decision to introduce the amendment that may see the controversial clause deleted when the Bill comes before the Committee of the Whole House.

Predictably, the reaction during debate was sharp and immediate, with mostly male MPs supporting the amendment, terming the consent clause “impractical and unrealistic” in the context of African culture [emphasis mine].

To which I say:

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marriage bill needs improvement

The Kenyan cabinet is planning on introducing a bill that will seek to set the record straight when it comes to marriages. People who cohabit under come-we-stay arrangements for up to two years will be considered married under the law. Forced wife inheritance will be outlawed. Marriage while under the age of 18 will be considered illegal. The breadwinner of the family will be obligated under the law to take care of the spouse earning less.

Other positives include the fact that both spouses will own property 50-50. Husbands (or wives) cannot kick their spouses out of the house without a court order. And second wives/mistresses are not entitled to any property they found their man with. In most respects the bill seems like a step in the right direction.

But I have (for now at least) two problems with it. Firstly, by allowing for come we stay arrangements, the bill does not go far enough in strengthening the institution of marriage. It would have been better if it had some incentive (a tax break for instance or less maternity costs for those that don’t pay taxes – and there are loads of them) for people who want to live together to register their marriage. They don’t have to go to church or anything (although this would my preferred way of doing things because of the added advantage of social monitoring of church marriages), just register with the DC or something.This way Kenyan women will have the law on their side against cheating husbands who do not want to fulfill their obligations and it makes it a lot easier to keep records for households for planning purposes.

Secondly, the section on customary polygamy should be thrown out. I think that Kenyan men have for far too long exploited this loophole to give women a raw deal. The requirement that women consent in writing to polygamy will not change anything. As long as they are financially dependent on their husbands women will have no choice but to consent to polygamy – for their sake and perhaps more importantly, for the sake of their children. Plus this provision will be exploited by men who want to have extra-marital affairs – which is contributing a great deal to the spread of HIV among married couples. Infidelity should be outlawed, with very stiff penalties (too bad the Kenyan parliament is male-dominated).

I am a believer in the truism that laws should incremental and a reflection of the culture of the people at any given time. At the same time however I think that the government should have a normative bias towards registered monogamous marriages among non-Muslim Kenyans.